17 responses for this post

1. ali on Thursday, October 25, 2007 at 9:45 am

   yeah i think the outing is actually pretty funny b/c some people really need to be outed, but to act as an innocent partner. they had sex. they had sex without condoms. remind me here, but doesn’t it take two to do the proverbial tango?

   that being said. i’m going to add this as my signature on my work email account b/c i can’t find anything more inspirational.

   “to the person who said “buck up princess” … yeah, you know what? you try riding your bike over the williamsburg bridge with sores all over your vag and see how much you feel like “bucking up.” hehehe

2. Dave on Thursday, October 25, 2007 at 9:50 am

   Yeah, out him if you want, because if he knowingly had herpes and didn’t say anything makes him a certain type of scum, but the line “my first outbreak of herpes the week after having unprotected sex with a shady character” kinda says something about her, too.

3. Melissa on Thursday, October 25, 2007 at 9:51 am

   I agree - not feeling a ton of sympathy. The fact that she had to get in contact with him via MySpace indiciates how little she knew him in the first place (no phone #?).

   Maybe he did give it to her, but maybe he didn’t. This just strikes me as the wrong way to go about it.

   Herpes can lie dormant and stress can bring it out - who knows.

4. freakgirl on Thursday, October 25, 2007 at 9:53 am

   I don’t care if she slept with him and didn’t get his number; girl needs to get a groove on sometimes. No judgement there. But if you’re going to make a habit of it, without using condoms, then you kind of just have to deal with what you’ve got coming to you.

5. ali on Thursday, October 25, 2007 at 10:01 am

   fg - totally agree. but i forgot about the myspace message. there’s something about myspace - well why don’t they just call it hipsterfriendfinder and leave it at that?

6. freakgirl on Thursday, October 25, 2007 at 10:03 am

   Nothing good ever came from MySpace.

7. heather on Thursday, October 25, 2007 at 10:10 am

   Yeah, it sucks for her, but I’m with the “shoulda used protection with the shady character” crowd. And her excuses don’t matter. She knew he was “shady” (her words), she hardly knew him (only way to contact is myspace), yet she still went for it without even a tiny bit of understanding that maybe it wouldn’t work out so great in the end? Whatever.

   I understand that she’s frustrated & physically uncomfortable, but maybe this guy really didn’t give her herpes knowingly. How does she really know he knew? He denied it, which doesn’t mean he’s innocent, but maybe he didn’t have any symptoms. Or he had some at some point, but they weren’t bad enough to send him running to the doctor so he just went on his merry way. Who knows? She’s probably right and he’s just a selfish, insensitive ass, but if she’s wrong, well, she could have a bit of a defamation suit on her hands.

   Besides, hasn’t she seen the commercials? It’s a brand new day! Take your Valtrex and go sailing with a hot guy!

8. heather on Thursday, October 25, 2007 at 10:13 am

   Also, she apparently wasn’t even one of his myspace “friends” because when he changed his profile, she couldn’t send him a message. Unless he deleted her. So, was this a myspace hookup? Because if it was, just, ewww! And I’m pretty sure there’s a disclaimer somewhere on the myspace terms of service agreement that all hookups via myspace should be assumed to result in an STD without the use of prophylactics.

9. freakgirl on Thursday, October 25, 2007 at 10:16 am

   I’m still not 100% convinced this isn’t some sort of prank.

   Anyway, yeah, there is still a lot to be learned about herpes. People can unknowingly carry it for years without ever having an outbreak. She could have had it dormant, he could have had it dormant…they’ll never really know the truth. I imagine if he had been nice about the whole situation, she wouldn’t have done this. Which just makes her look like a vengeful, dumped shrew.

   Also, it’s only a matter of time before someone figures out who she is and puts up flyers with her face on them.

   Heather - she met him at a party and even admits that she was trying to get laid by some other guy and this dude was second choice. Charming.

   Lastly, if he DID knowingly give her herpes, I hope his dick falls off.

10. Rona on Thursday, October 25, 2007 at 10:23 am

    I’m too old for myspace.

11. Susie on Thursday, October 25, 2007 at 10:27 am

    You know, I spend half my life trying to make sure my kids understand that we are all responsible for our own choices and the resulting consequences. Some people are determined to be the victim at all times, never taking responsibility for their role in whatever it is they think has befallen them. Call me callous, but I have little sympathy. I’d have a lot more sympathy for this woman if she’d just said “I did something stupid (not using a condom) and so did this guy (if, in fact, she knows this to be true, whereas in this case it doesn’t look like it), and now I have herpes.” She admits she should have worn a condom, but then spends twelve years saying why it’s not really her fault. I could give a shit where, when, or with whom she chooses to have sex — it’s not the point. But if you’re going to have unprotected sex with a relative stranger, at least share responsibility for the inevitable STD.

12. chuckb123 on Thursday, October 25, 2007 at 10:31 am

    I read a lot of the comments. It’s pretty split between “go girl!” and “what do you expect, dummie?”

13. freakgirl on Thursday, October 25, 2007 at 10:45 am

    Yep. Also, can I just say that she is acting like herpes is a death sentence? She calls it a “horrific disease.” Really? Herpes? Horrific?

    Whatever. Get bent, drama queen.

14. Michael on Thursday, October 25, 2007 at 12:24 pm

    Unprotected sex with a complete stranger is Russian roulette and she got a BB instead of a bullet.

15. Maggie on Thursday, October 25, 2007 at 12:29 pm

    Susie, me too, with Alex and consequences. So important.

    You know what I really hate? It’s that this woman is still trying to justify what she did (have unprotected sex) by illustrating that it’s stupid to give a blowjob to someone with a condom on. Um…honey, aren’t you living proof of why that’s not only NOT stupid, but NECESSARY?

16. Shannon on Saturday, October 27, 2007 at 3:52 pm

    I noticed her blog is gone now. I wonder why - Blogger police? Lawsuit from unfairly vilified dude?

    And don’t misunderstand what I mean by vilified. I read her blog when it was up, and if we can take her word for it, he didn’t want to have protected sex. So he’s stupid. Kind of a jerk. I’m just saying, she’s stupid too for giving in, and they are the same kind of jerk. She went way overboard with what she did, plus she’s treating herpes like it’s leprosy or something.

    I’m a lesbian, and we’re apparently supposed to hate men or whatever, but I’ve personally never understood the straight girl “the dude is responsible for all bad things” attitude. I swear to you, straight girls hate men much more than lesbians.

    But maybe because they have to deal with them and we don’t.
    

17. freakgirl on Saturday, October 27, 2007 at 10:28 pm

    Heh, Shannon.

    Funny her blog is down. I guess we’ll never know. She wanted attention but I guess she didn’t get the kind she wanted.

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