Happy belated birthday, by the way. And to freakboy, too.

Having said that, the main reason I responded the way I did was to pick a fight with you. I wanted to be angry with someone–anyone–about what was going on because my wife refuses to discuss the problem. You are the convenient target of that frustration. For that, I sincerely apologize.

As for working something out–don’t hold your breath.

Also, I honestly don’t think anyone was having any laughs at your expense. I thought there was a lot of good information provided by my readers. Any jokes made were certainly not intended to hurt your feelings; in fact, I think a healthy attitude towards sex includes humor. Just because people are laughing about sex doesn’t mean they are laughing at you.

Of course I am sympathetic to your issues, but like I said, snooping in someone’s email and mentioning the word “divorce” point to some larger problems that perhaps you’re not being honest with yourself about. I’m sorry for your troubles, and I truly hope you and your wife are able to work something out.

I originally decided to write to you because I thought it would make me feel better to share with someone what I’ve been too embarrassed to talk to anyone else about. I have talked to my wife many, many times, and tried to convince her to go to counseling with me, but she has so far refused. So relating my situation anonymously to someone I hoped would be sympathetic felt really good.

What I didn’t anticipate, however, was that others would be free to comment, too, and that my situation would become a kind of running joke. Everyone has a good laugh at my expense, and then moves on to the next post about cats or television shows. But what for all of you is entertainment is for me an unresolved source of frustration and conflict.

I always yell “BLITZERRRRRRRRRRRRRRR!” right at the Big Moment. Is that weird?

GC, maybe not. I don’t think it’s that uncommon for some women (or men) to write off sex because they have some kind of hang-up or another.